Late Valentine’s Day Outfit

Wow! What a hiatus from the blog. What a hiatus from life really. Things have been rough. I talked about the major life change that took place at the very beginning of February here but other things have come up and life has been hectic. The old wives tale about death coming in threes is true in my case and the past few weeks have been hard and trying. So because life has essentially taken over, I didn’t get to celebrate Valentine’s Day on Vday. Ish happens, am I right.

So this weekend, we actually had a little bit of time on Sunday to celebrate our own version of Valentine’s Day. It wasn’t anything like we normally do, but life isn’t really normal right now. So since we were celebrating, kind of, I wanted to wear something that reminded me of Valentine’s Day and something I may have actually worn had we celebrated on Tuesday. Blush and wine, it just did the trick. It reminded me of love and it also reminded me Spring is coming very soon. Which since life has been hectic, I haven’t even been able to catch up on the trends for this Spring or even begin to look at things that I may be adding to my closet for the new season. Which now as I’m typing this, another mental note has been placed to do that.

This post is literally all over the place, much like my life at this point. But regular fashion posts are coming back to you this week because I need a creative outlet at this time in my life. Thank you for all your kind words through this period of adjustment.

Happy New Week Loves!!

For Bob

There are a million things I could write about including Lady Gaga’s amazing Super Bowl performance and the following body shaming she experienced or the plenty of Valentine’s Day post I had originally planned anyways. But sadly I am writing a totally different post. I have been MIA for about a week now, the longest hiatus I have taken from social media and the blog since it began. Last Thursday my life changed, last Thursday Andrew’s dad passed away very suddenly and unexpected. It has been a complete shock to all of us and the realization that Bob is actually gone, has set in. Andrew jokingly said at dinner with the family I should write a blog post for Bob (and I think Andrew suggested this because he always supported me doing crazy things for the blog even though he had no clue what was happening), but if I did it in accordance to my blog I would be showing you how to style camo and tactical vests all while having a gun strapped to my hip (and possibly ankle). So since I can not pull off Bob’s fashion sense, I’ll be a little sappy and emotional and share my favorite Bob stories (because if you knew Bob you know he loved to tell stories, even if you had heard them time after time).

Bob was Bob and there is no one else like him. He told you and said whatever he wanted, he had a love for his wife that rivals a Nicholas Sparks movie, he loved his three sons dearly and proudly talked about them, he cherished his grandchildren and loved when they were around and always put his family first. He walked in to a room like he owned it; his confidence was indescribable. Bob was the person you called any time of day and he was there to help, but he was also the person when you didn’t need him that took forever; I don’t know how many times Bob has been there to save the day and I don’t know how many times Bob has made us wait forever for dinner. Andrew’s sister in law and I joked we literally had to be adults now, since Bob wasn’t there to save the day. Bob was a gentle soul, he was a hilarious human being and he was an interesting story teller. I do know I was loved by Bob, I do know Bob was fascinated and confused about “this blogging thing I do”, I do know Bob was proud of quite a few things I’ve done and I do know Bob has left a little emptiness in my heart along with everyone else.

I do also know Bob would be so proud of how his boys are handling everything. I have watched three guys come together like I’ve never seen a family come together. Working together to make Bob’s wife Anne comfortable, safe and taken care of. They have cried together and laughed together. But most importantly, a strong unit, taking on responsibilities they weren’t expecting too. But Bob would be proud.

As Anne lost her best friend and partner, and the boys lost their father, it’s been a trying week. However, there has been comfort in being together and sharing Bob stories. I really don’t know how I could not sit here and type all day about Bob stories, because there are a ton. But one of my top 3 favorite Bob stories comes from this past 4th of July. Andrew’s oldest brother and girlfriend, along with all their 4 kids combined and Andrew and I decided to go tubing when the river was literally the lowest it had been all year. There were kid’s meltdowns ten minutes into it and beer was drank really fast. We had ran out of beer before we even made it to our half way point. We were joking we should call Bob to save us, and deliver more beer. Before we actually went through with that, we came around a bend and saw a familiar figure on the banks of the river at a park. I was the first to ask if it was Bob. And of course it was Bob. Bob was just out being Bob. We met up with Bob and of course Bob wanted to help deliver beer. And he did. The end of the trip ended with me going on off on a lady whom said everything in the book about us being horrible people because we were drinking and yelling through our tubing adventure. How dare her speak badly of us, when we weren’t doing anything wrong (also a tube may have accidentally fell down the exit stairs and tapped her child); and I couldn’t keep my mouth shut. After tubing, all Bob could talk about was his epic beer drop and how he actually wanted to throw it off a bridge, but then he was filled in on what actually happened at the end of tubing and my little flip out. He sat back and laughed, said he was proud and said I earned that Plyler name that day.

Bob will be greatly missed. He’s left a little empty space in all our hearts. Things just aren’t the same anymore and everything is definitely more quiet and dull.

 

Galentine’s Day Brunching Boho Vibes

Top // Jeans // Booties // Bag // Sweater // Choker // Necklace // Ring & Ring // Hat

I wore this exact same basic outfit in Monday’s blog post, but I created a totally different look to show you the versatility of a basic outfit and mixing up the pieces. So on Monday I showed you the perfect modern rocker chic look great for date night with your SO for Valentine’s Day, so today I’m creating a boho chic look perfect for brunching with your girls for Galentine’s Day or even celebrating the day of love with your love the weekend before antique shopping, eating tacos and hitting up your favorite coffee shop!

A girl really can’t go wrong with some awesome black booties, black jeans and a striped shirt. So for this look I added an oversized cardigan to create texture and warmth and for a more casual, laid back look. To pull the whole look together a hat, oversized funky leather bag and chokers were much needed. And from a really simple #ootd, I created a funky look perfect for a weekend of celebrating with your favorite people, that doesn’t scream Valentine’s Day.

Girls, seriously invest in black jeans, black booties and a striped shirt. It’s so versatile and a life saver when you are having a “I have nothing in my closet” feeling.

Non-Cheesy Valentine’s Day Look

Shirt // Jeans // Jacket (similar) // Booties // Scarf // Ring and Ring // Similar Tote // Scarf (on tote) // Necklace

I’m just going to go ahead and say it. Valentine’s Day and dressing for Valentine’s day can be really cheesy. I mean we all love some good cheesiness in our lives, especially quirky little cards and gifts for the day, but the outfit doesn’t have to be an explosion of pinks, reds and hearts. Unless you totally want it to, YOU DO YOU GIRL! For me, that doesn’t work, mainly because I don’t own anything with hearts on it or really a lot of pink and red. Y’all know I keep a minimal color scheme going on.

I had bought this jacket from the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale 2 years ago and strangely hadn’t pulled it out of my closet this year, mainly because our crazy weather here in Asheville has required either my parka or a cardigan, but when pulling together Valentine’s Day outfits I knew this was to be styled some way (Also I started wearing again despite what the weather may be). I pulled this because it didn’t scream Valentine’s Day but it also worked with a romantic color scheme. So why not?!

I don’t do fancy date nights often. So over the top outfits don’t work for me. Plus lets be real, I’m more casual than fancy anyways. So I took my trusty black jeans and a favorite boyfriend shirt and created a look that would work for my kind of Valentine’s Day date. Threw on this jacket and some booties for an extra modern chic look that fits my look and pulled what could have been just an ehh outfit together. I added my favorite rings, necklace and scarf which just adds more to this modern rocker chic look. To make a pop for Valentine’s this rose gold tote was perfect and tying a star scarf on it made it a little more edgy than girly. And bam, there it was, my #ootd for Valentine’s Day or any day for that matter. This outfit is perfect for errands, meetings, work and able to go straight in to a fun night.

 

 

Pops of Red

There are times when I do like to add a pop of color to an outfit, especially around holidays. So since Valentine’s Day is right around the corner it’s the perfect excuse to add some pops of red to an #ootd. I’m not the hugest fan of pink (unless it’s blush and muted) so red is my go to Valentine’s Day color.

This outfit works perfectly for me for Valentine’s Day. It’s comfortable, flattering and perfect for date night just about anywhere. Adding tights and booties gives it that extra layer of warmth for the cold spell we are having in the mountains and are bound to have in February. But this would be cute sans those with some strappy black sandals. I added a bold necklace to give the sleek and modern fit of the outfit another pop and fun element for date night. Since a pencil skirt and peplum is enough on it’s on, I added a classic vintage clutch just big enough for necessities. And there it is, the perfect Valentine’s date night outfit!

What will all of you be wearing for Valentine’s Day?

What Do We Do Now?

I try to stay politically neutral on the blog and social media promoting the blog (my personal Facebook may be a little different). But today, of all days, I’m going to write how I feel, the truth; if you find this to be crossing the line or stepping on toes I apologize in advance, but I feel the need to share this.

Today and the days following are going to be tough. We thought election night and the following day was tough. Well this is tougher. No matter what side you are on it’s going to be tough. Hate is going to be spewed. Sexist remarks and actions are going to take place. Keyboard warriors are going to have at it; Hell some will even have at it to your face. We will feel our rights, privileges and common ground violated. But for one thing, we are better. We will not stoop to their level, we will not fight back with violent words or actions, we will not spew hate and most of all we will stand our ground without causing physical or emotional harm.

I have thought about this a lot after reading and watching the news in the past months. What do we do now? Is it worth it? Will people listen? How do we make this a better now and future for the kids being raised and fellow humankind?How do we promote #womenempowerment when it feels like we’ve been set back 100 years? How do we move forward? All of these questions have complicated answers but at the same time very simple answers. The complicated answers are the one’s I don’t really have. The easy answers I do. We start with spreading love and kindness to everyone, not just our fellow feminist friends but everyone. And to make our voices heard, not backing down and promote the right answer no matter what.

So what do we actually do from here besides wearing our pink pussy hats and attending the march for women not only on DC but all over the country?

You can make your voices heard by doing the above mentioned things, but there will also be other peaceful protests. Also speak up about women’s rights any time you have the chance. Not just on a day dedicated to this. If you spot something that isn’t promoting the greatness of women, don’t sit by idly. Also you can donate your time and money to many organizations that are promoting the fight for women and their rights. Instead of donating to Goodwill or The Salvation Army when Spring cleaning, donate to a women’s shelter. Most of these women are escaping domestic violence situations (which I assume we will see a spike in) and flee with nothing. If donating, call beforehand. Also call and see what they are in need of the most or make a donation. You can get involved with Planned Parenthood, also donate to Planned Parenthood, attend Planned Parenthood events and even go and stand beside protesters offering a smile and a positive alliance for the patrons going inside. You can also donate to NOW which promotes all women’s rights and have chapters in every single state (Asheville even has a chapter).

But it’s not just women we have to support. We have to support the mentally ill, the veterans, the police officers, teachers, our LBGTQ community, people with different ethnic and religious backgrounds and the one’s whom don’t have a voice. We simply have to support each other and spread kindness. To everyone. Learn to speak up when something isn’t right. Donate to your child’s teacher, any school in your area or just help out any teacher you know. The education system is already a joke, so lend a helping hand when you can. Attend events promoting and helping our vets. Buy a police officer a coffee in line. Speak up about mental illness. When someone with a handicap is treated differently, make it right. Stand by your LBGTQ peers and let them know love is love and you will support them. Help people with different religious beliefs or ethnic backgrounds feel safe. Make sure going forward you are actually listening; it helps you understand the people around you and helps you actually be able to communicate with those around you.

All in all, be kind. Just spread it. It’s the cheapest and easiest thing you can do for your community, country and human race.

Speaking of being kind, say kind words, especially to the women around you. We as a group face it from men enough, so don’t be the one spreading the hatefulness. Stop shaming women for their choices. Stop shaming women for the person they are. Stop shaming women for the way they look. Stop shaming women for being a person who doesn’t let others in. Stop shaming women for their career choices. And stop shaming women for their choices on having and creating a family. Support each other. Support each other in small steps and huge leaps. We have to empower each other before any real change can actually happen. It starts with each of us. Female really is the future, so we need to make it a better one.

So I leave you with these last few things as a man who promotes sexism, rape culture, racism, hate and intolerance is sworn in to office today. I am always here for any of you. I will be your shoulder to cry on. I am the ear you need to vent to. Feel free to contact me for absolutely anything; to listen and to support. I care for you. I support you. You are loved. You are worthy. You are amazing. We will prevail!

Fashion posts are coming back at ya next week. I’m taking this weekend to find some creative juices and reflect. I hope you all reflect this weekend and spread some love!

 

 

 

 

Valentine’s Day Adventures For Your Guy

Valentine’s Day is a little under a month away and let’s face it, guys don’t like it as much as we do. Guys can’t easily be excited by the thoughts of jewelry, chocolates, fancy dinners and Instagram worthy floral arrangements. So what do they really want? I asked Andrew what they really want and his answer was super complex. Adventures and spending time with you. That’s right ladies. Pretty simple if you really think about it. So since Valentine’s Day will be more about you and falls on a week day, I’ve come up with some fun activities to celebrate the man in your life the weekend before or after, because love doesn’t have to shown on the exact day.

  1. If you have the means to plan a weekend getaway, that’s perfect. If you live in Asheville there are so many places that are within a few hours drive for any person. Beaches are close; we are partial to Hilton Head Island; Atlanta is close, Charlotte is close, Gatlinburg is close. So many options at this point for a romantic getaway. Plus if you are traveling to the beach, it’s a little cheaper right now than visiting in a Spring or Summer weekend.

2. Plan a brewery tour. Here in Asheville we have a ton and the options are endless. Maybe learning about hops isn’t your thing; most tours are actually pretty neat, plus there is food and beer afterwards.

3. Plan a day of activities he actually likes. And maybe it’s something you don’t like the greatest. Reserve him a tee time, plan a skiing day, go visit a car museum, rock climbing or hit up an arcade (even cooler if it’s a retro arcade); whatever his interests are take that and run with it.

4. Get out and adventure together. Take a ride to a neighboring town and try something new. Go on a hike. Go chase waterfalls and views. Take a picnic or scope out a cute little spot for lunch to visit where you are traveling through.

5. Cook him a fancy dinner at home. Instead of him grilling, make sure you do the cooking, unless both of you want to cook together. On the romantic side, it’s a little more fun when both of you are in the kitchen. This surf and turf recipe is a winner, plus there is this recipe, this recipe and this one.

 

Black Hues

Top // Leggings // Sweater-old (similar, similar, similar) // Booties-old (similar) // Short Necklace // Long Necklace (CURRENTLY ON SALE)

So if you are new around here; Hi, my name is Stephanie and I love wearing black! It just works for me, it works for all my activities and is slimming. But sometimes, almost all my black clothes are in the wash together. The best alternative is mixing hues of blacks like greys.

Last weekend when it snowed, by Sunday I *had* to get out. I had to get some sushi and Andrew and I also had a joint freelance meeting. So my go to for meetings is black but I needed to be able to be comfy moving around. Since I shockingly don’t have a swingy black top I opted for this. Currently putting on my notes section to pick up one of these tops from Versona in black. It’s super casual so I opted for some texture and print with an aztec inspired cardigan and fringe booties. When wearing all black I like to add a pop of muted color somewhere. So I added this new Noonday Collection burgandy/rust fringe necklace paired with a choker length necklace.

Perfect for running around and went together easily when I didn’t have my go to black top.

Breaking Out in Winter Florals

This past weekend the South East got some snow. It was a “snowstorm”. On Saturday, pretty much the entire town shut down, and I legit didn’t leave the house but to see what was happening. I stayed under a blanket, watching Netflix documentaries and planning out my week. Super lame, I know. By Sunday morning, I was feeling cabin fever; even though I had been inside for only a day. I got up, fixed my hair, did my makeup and put on clothes besides pajamas to go somewhere. I was determined to get sushi or French Broad Chocolate Lounge‘s Mocha Stout Cake. It was a real urge.

I put on this floral dress because what better way to fight cabin fever and the winter blues with some floral? Paired over my LuLaRoe leggings and a furry cardigan it was warm and perfect for heading out in. I haven’t felt better about myself in a while. While this dress is last year, there are tons of similar ones HERE.

Whenever you are feeling “stuck” sometimes you just need to take care of yourself, safely of course. Or wear something that is opposing to what your outside view looks like. Whatever works!

Dressing For Frigid Temps

Whether you are heading to a wintry, snowed in Valentine’s Day getaway, planning a trip to the cold, live in the mountains or plan to live in the mountains; it’s going to be cold. Maybe not every day, but there are going to be times when it is down right frigid. So I’ve decided to share the greatest tips I’ve learned since living in the mountains to actually brave the cold instead of feeling like you have to be stuck inside when a snow storm comes through or the thermometer reads negative.

  1. A really good coat is essential. Now the coats that are going to be the best for extremely cold days aren’t going to be the cutest. I recommend a down/insulated jacket with a hood and a longer version to cover more of your leg area. I love mine which was an amazing post Christmas sale and the perfect investment for me to last winters to come and will be perfect for camping as well. I would recommend this coat, this coat or this coat.
  2. Layers are important. Comfortable layers that is. I’ve worn leggings under jeans this weekend and I’ve also doubled up on my LuLaRoe leggings. My legs are the first thing to get cold. I’ve double up on shirts as well and even wore a cami under the heavy sweater for a tight layer. Layers, layers y’all!
  3. Wool socks will forever be your friend in frigid temps. I’m not talking the J. Crew camping socks, I’m talking legit wool socks. I picked up some nice wool socks at a local outdoor store and they have been perfect for cold days and even helped my feet survive a chilly camping trip.
  4. Protect your outer extremities. You might not think about it at first, but when out in the colder temps, your hands and head are the first to get cold. Gloves and hats are a must.
  5. Snow boots, winter boots or even nice rain boots will save you in the cold, snow and ice. Anything with a rigid sole will help you trek through whatever is on the ground better than a slick sole of your standard boot. I love my bean boots, though not lined, keep my feet warm but better yet they are easy to clean and work well in the snow.
  6. Not pictured, but sunglasses are a must. Snow blindness is a thing. When the sun is shining on the snow or ice, it makes everything look really white, so grab a pair of sunnies before heading outside to avoid squinting!