The Failed Romper

Fashion, style or lifestyle bloggers typically share what they love, what works and what they think you need to add to your shopping cart too. But a lot of times we miss the things that just don’t work. So I’m here to share with you something that just missed the mark big time.

Last year for Andrew and I’s annual Hilton Head Island visit, we got invited to a last minute event. And to be frank, I had planned very little on blogging or working period because not only was this our annual visit, but it was also in celebration of graduation for myself. I literally planned to sit on the beach the entire week and do nothing but swim, eat seafood and drink gin and tonics. But this event happened. I ran out to the local outlet mall to grab something quick. Without even trying it on, I bought a sale item that of course couldn’t be returned. But at least I didn’t waste a lot of money on it, right? I wore this to the event dreadfully, because well it just didn’t work. Hence why no pictures of the private seafood dining experience we had.

In light of the male romper becoming a thing everyone is talking about, I thought I would get this out of the closet to try to style it one more time, with my entire closet and plenty of time. And it’s still a big nope. The area around the crotch is just not working for me, the top portion is about two sizes to big and the linen fabric for this does not work because it’s constantly a wrinkly mess. I don’t feel confident in this number, nor do I feel comfortable. Which are huge turn offs for me in clothing.  I’m glad this is from last season, because I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone. I’m confused on how someone can create a male’s romper to fit his groin area without any moose knuckles but women’s rompers are the luck of the draw, and they are the luck of the draw for many women in many different sizes and shapes. They are just hits or misses.

Needless to say this number immediately went in to a donation bag because there’s no use in it taking up my closet space. Also lesson learned to never leave the store without trying something on, especially if it’s a “no return sale” item.

 

Bare Shoulders and New Favorite Piece of Jewelry

Top // Jeans // Sandals // Bag // Choker // Half Moon Necklace

Summer is near and it’s time to show some skin. And the skin I like to show is on the shoulders. And off the shoulder tops have been a thing for a long time, but just recently become popular. I remember wearing an off the shoulder dress in the Bahamas in 2009 and I bought an off the shoulder top for a beach trip a few years back. But because everyone and their momma is wearing one these days, you can easily find them in just about any print or fabric. When I saw this super simple one from Target (which can actually be worn off the shoulder or on) and of course in a stripe, it just jumped in to my cart.

I love the simpleness of this top. I can wear it anywhere and for anything. I can dress it up or dress it down. Paired with these killer white jeans and sandals gives an edgy casual look perfect for just about anything. Even a housewarming/ jewelry party as seen on my Instagram. This top is becoming a favorite worn piece that I am considering going back and getting it in the black and white version offered.

Another reason I love this top and off the shoulder tops is the ability to layer necklaces and it not be over kill. And a recent favorite is this little gemstone choker from a little downtown boutique, Embellish. I have been on the hunt for a choker that is not the standard leather cording. Something of sustainability, something different, something that will still go with everything and something adjustable to layer different ways. I had my heart set on a little gold choker from another boutique but couldn’t bring myself to actually getting it not sure if it would be worn or not. Enter this necklace. The moment I saw it, I knew it was actually what I was looking for. I actually received this as a gift but had planned on buying this for myself anyways. I love this because it isn’t gold or silver or your typical leather strap choker. It’s more feminine. I love the purple color even though there was a grey version offered. I love the way it layers with other necklaces and doesn’t seem to distract, it just pulls everything of a metal together. It’s simple and versatile and I’m in love. I wish the lady who made these, had a link for all of you, but she doesn’t; so now you just have to pop in and see the lovely Barb and check out this piece for yourself.

 

A Maxi For Mom

Dress // Sandals // Jewelry

Mother’s Day is this weekend; so I hope you have picked out your momma the best gift or have come up with a thoughtful gesture! So whether you are brunching, lunching or grilling out with your mom, your #ootd needs to be on point, because mom deserves your best look!

I’ve been looking through my closet trying to find the perfect outfit for Mother’s Day, because I’m heading to Biltmore. And the maxi dresses just seem perfect. Long enough to be classy and respectful, but with a fun boho vibe. And a maxi is easy, just the way I want dressing to be on a Sunday. You don’t have to worry about putting together an outfit that just works and let’s face it, even though we love mom, Sundays are still our lazy days.

I already have a strappy, short staple for this Spring and Summer, but this dress is going to be my maxi go to. Enough black in the dress to satisfy my neutral loving heart but with some pops of colors spaced throughout the stripes for a fun Spring/Summer pop. The added tribal print on the straps, plus a fun strappy back eliminates my need for a necklace, making it the easiest throw on and go, pulled together look. All I needed was some sandals and my go to daily jewelry (bangles and rings). Perfect for errands, traveling, brunch, cook outs or patio drinking.

Mom would def approve of this dress (and the price point).

 

 

The Benefits of Disconnecting on The Trail

Warning- this is in no way a fashion related posted or even a cute styled one, but that’s part of life.

It’s been a long past few months for myself. If you have no idea what has been going on, you can read a little here why everything has been off. I’ve been worrying about everyone else but myself and have been trying to be the best multitasker there is. But it’s taking a toll on just about everything in me. I knew I needed to take a break from absolutely everything. So since we have access to tons of trails and views around Asheville, it only seemed like the best thing to do. Minus the fact it was freezing and there was actually some snow on the ground.

I chose hiking, because what some of you may not know, I go quite a bit. But also hiking is the best way to disconnect and feel a little closer to yourself. When you go up in the mountains, you don’t have any cell service. You have to put that phone away or you could actually get hurt from not focusing. You have to focus on your path and how you are handling it. And that’s literally the only thing you need to focus on.

Hiking reduces stress by allowing the freedom to think without distraction. Some hikers may opt to spend the majority of their time fully taking in the sounds and scenery of the majestic nature around them, while others prefer to take advantage of that rare moment of silence to think deeply on issues that are affecting their lives. The combination of aerobic exercise and deep thinking aids with strengthening the body’s internal system of stress management, far more powerfully than with just exercise alone. An added bonus is that your endorphins will be higher, allowing positive thoughts to sneak through rather than negative ones.

Hiking also has plenty of health benefits like reducing heart disease and boosting endorphins, but it also helps boost your energy which can cause you to be stressed or just a pain in the ass to be around. It is proven that people with a sedentary lifestyle had increases in energy after doing exercise with a focus on walking.

All in all hiking is extremely beneficial to you. And on the plus side you get some awesome views and you can still get some killer Instagram photos with the airplane mode on!

 

High Low and Dip Dyed

Pants // Top // Necklace // Shoes // Clutch

Goodbye weekend, hello week. I didn’t actually get a weekend day this weekend because a bunch of schedule changes. And this week is going to be an extremely long, hard and sad week. So dressing for the free time I have had, it had to have absolutely no thought in to it but still look completely pulled together. Enter the high low top.

It’s your take on a breathable t-shirt but dressed up enough to make you looked pull together. I also love a good high low top for Spring and Summer, because it’s hot and humid in the South but you still want to cover up any troubled areas. And this top does just that.

I can’t find this top anywhere on the Target website, but girl if you can find this top in stores I highly suggest scooping it up. I kind of want to sleep in this top, it’s that soft. Paired with black pants and wedges says hey, I’m super comfortable but don’t look like I just rolled out of bed. And let’s just talk about the wedges for a second. Oh so comfortable! I could do all kinds of walking in these. And I did just that. Ice cream run, grocery store shopping and a few other errands.

I hope you all have a great week!

Toned Down Janis Joplin Vibes

Top // Jeans // Sandals // Bag

I’ve always considered myself an old soul and I tend to acquire a lot of my inspiration from old music and the ones who sang them. Even Janis Joplin. As crazy and outlandish as some of her outfits were, you can still pull inspiration from her. Always in the widest of flares possible, showing some skin, deep colors and the funky glasses. Hence how this #ootd was born.

I haven’t ever really considered flares or extremely wide pants until recently. The 70’s style is huge and I’m seeing more flares and wide pants than skinnies. I prefer to stick with snug pants for a slimming affect until I tried on something different. Game changer. Flares and wide legs if done correctly can be just as slimming and of course give you a groovy vibe.

With the jeans I decided to go with an off the shoulder top to channel that Janis Joplin “I don’t care” vibe and it paired really nicely with the extreme flares. Paired with some serious platforms and a dyed bag and I’ve got disco fever. Sometime’s the most unexpected fit and style actually works for you!

Where do you pull your inspiration from?

Autumn Neutrals for Spring

Just because the flowers are blooming and there are pastel hues on every rack, doesn’t mean you have to give up the Autumn hues just yet. Especially if you are a neutral lover. When I recently got to visit Versona to check out their new Spring Look Book, I noticed a theme. Of course your typical floral print, stripes and fresh pastels and brights, but also a ton of neutrals especially in the rust and olive family. And what can I say, I love it.

The trick to wearing these types of colors in warmer months is shape and fabric. When going with these neutrals, look for lightweight fabrics and sheer fabrics. Cuts that remind you of warmer weather like sleeveless and shorter cuts. Things you can easily layer and things you can wear on their own. Rusts, olives, greys, blacks and deeper browns can just as easily be worn in the Spring as they can Fall and Winter.

I paired these black skinny jeans with this grey top and threw on a sleeveless vest. Light weight and breathable. I wasn’t dying of heat exhaustion since the season in the mountains is extremely bipolar. A neck scarf in the same hues and my trusty booties for a day of working on fashion things. Pulled together and chic, but also on point for the new season.

 

The Show I Didn’t Expect To Binge Watch Or Be So Emotional Over

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I’m not one to tell y’all what I’m binge watching because generally it’s embarrassing or I’ve gotten better since I’m busy now to watch an episode at a time, ya know like people normally would. And you probably honestly don’t care. But the show I recently binge watched, was one I wasn’t expecting or expected to have real emotions during. But I did and I’m still heart broken over it; so since it is that good I just had to tell y’all about it.

I had not heard of 13 Reasons Why (I had no idea it was a book or created by Selena Gomez). I even ignored the preview on Netflix earlier in the month; I simply passed it off as another teen drama. But then I noticed a friend whom is a teacher talking about it, so thought I would put it on as background noise for making dinner. I was making a chicken bake, so nothing was going to burn, but I didn’t want to keep missing the parts when I got up to do laundry and other nightly chores. After dinner, I had to restart the show and I was drawn in. Needless to say I was up until about 3am on Monday morning watching because I just had to know what happened next. I later finished the Netflix original on Thursday, and lately I haven’t been binge watching anything with my hectic schedule.

Without giving away what happens, the trailer even tells you this much; the concept is Hannah has taken her life and left tapes to explain why and the show focus around Clay, Hannah’s crush/love, listening. Even though it’s high school based, the reason I was so drawn in is we have all either been Hannah or known a Hannah. Also the characters are all familiar; the popular crowd, the loner, the kid who might do a school shooting, the friendly crowd, the shy kid, the kid with no money and the kid with all the money who gets away with everything. All of them trying to find their way and themselves through the harsh reality of life.

But the show’s creators and writers did not leave any stone unturned. The show talks about things that high schoolers and young adults (even adults) face. Bullying, sexual assault, depression, rape, alcoholism and the list goes on. They take it head on, not something that is pushed under the rug. It’s raw and real. It honestly feels like the most realistic thing I’ve watched in a really long time.

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I as a 28 year adult, cried. I cried more times than I would like to actually admit. The scene that got me the most was the school dance scene. A perfect moment in time. Like we have all had before. A moment that captures that awkward yet thrilling moment of young or fresh love. A moment we never think would be a memory due to a tragic fate.

When Clay hears is own tape, I balled. Like a baby. Sometimes you can love someone so much but still not be able to help them the way they need you too. Or you may not even know they needed help, because on the outside they were holding it together so well, or maybe even semi well. This hit home a little too much with a bunch of personal stuff going on.

The graphic scene of the actual suicide makes you really think. What could I do a little more to make sure someone feels that they have no other choice. No one to help them. No one to run to. No one to comfort them. I have suffered with depression since the age of the characters in the show. I have gotten to that point. But then I always had someone bring me back. And we all need that from time to time.

A show to make you think. A show to make you feel emotions. A show to make you love and compassionate. A show to make you think about those around you. A show to make you live life to fullest. A show to make you thankful. A show to make you think about the things you say and do. A show to make you aware you effect others. A show to make you tell people you love, that you love them. A show to make you aware, the world is rough and every single one of us has to encounter it’s harshness.

The “Everything” Dress

Dress // Clutch // Sandals

I’ve been looking for a dress that I can just about wear to anything. And I do mean anything. Cook outs, date night, showers, celebrations or even just running errands. And I’m pretty sure I found just the right one. Luckily I don’t have to attend any weddings, but a wedding celebration, so nothing overly fancy was needed. I have been searching and searching. Everything is just overload on floral and a lot of bright yellow. Neither I am extremely fond of. But I did find this dress, with a floral print, but not overly floral. Plus the base of the dress is black, making it extremely versatile.

The fit of this dress is what drew me in. I’m not the biggest fan of the straps, but could easily put a vest or cardigan over it. The rouging under the bust gives a nice silhouette and the flare helps cover up any unwanted attention to the mid section and the hips. The length is perfect. It’s not too short and not too long.

I paired the dress with some strappy sandals and this amazing clutch in the perfect Spring neutral for a fun night of patio dining. But the dress would go great with sneakers and denim, cardigans and booties, blazer and heels or just worn with casual sandals. The possibilities for styling and what to wear it for are endless.

Have you found your go to dress yet this season?

 

Blooming Into Spring

Skirt // Top // Similar Sandals // Necklace

The new season means new collections everywhere and picking just the right pieces to add to your closet. What’s popular this Spring? Florals ( GROUNDBREAKING ), the color blush, cropped denim and pants, flowy dresses, cold shoulder, cut outs, yellow and sandals (just about any kind). And to help me with adding some new Spring pieces to my wardrobe I got to visit Versona to check out all these new trends.

Now when it comes to trends I am very fickle because I’m more a neutral kind of girl and I like to find pieces that will transition with my wardrobe through the seasons so I get my money’s worth out of the pieces. So I always keep that in mind, and if it is something extremely trendy like the seventies style flowy floral dresses I make sure it’s affordable so it’s not a huge loss. But with Versona this Spring, you can actually do both. If you are unaware of Versona, it is a boutique shopping experience but not with boutique price tags. The same idea of limited supply, unique pieces, quality pieces and even indie labels are available. This Spring, I actually loved a ton of stuff in the store. They had all the trends, tons of floral, blush colors and dresses that hit the mark. I did try on several items from their new Spring Look Book, but nothing really hit the mark. The long flowy floral dress did absolutely nothing for my skin color. But the skirt I am wearing is in the look book in the blush color, that color also did nothing for me, but I also noticed it in black. And of course I was sold on the black.

Black is my color. It’s so easy to style. So when I found the black version of the Spring Look Book find, I knew this may be the winner. This skirt is so versatile to style and that’s what drew me in. Y’all know I have this obsession with stripes and that’s how I immediately planned to wear it. But when I got home, I noticed the different colors in the skirt. I could wear it with dark neutrals or light neutrals, which is perfect for me, hence why I chose a khaki striped top and broke out the cognac colored heels. And ladies, break out those caged sandals from last year because they are just as popular this year. But the reason I also picked this up, it will work into the fall and winter months for me. This would be cute with a sweater, tights and booties. And that’s how I really put together an #ootd, right there in the fitting room of the store to debate whether it’s worth it or not. This skirt will be on repeat for me this Spring and Summer as I have several events to attend in the coming months and I can style it differently for each one, but also have a piece that corresponds with Spring trends.

If the trendy pieces are not really your style, Versona has a ton of versatile, neutral and quality basic pieces right now. I did pick up a few things that were not in the Spring Look Book that you will see next week on the blog. In the past they haven’t had a ton of these pieces, so it was refreshing to see that and it actually made the store feel a little more like a boutique.

So a huge thanks to Versona for letting me play dress up and pick the perfect pieces for a more Spring vibe in my closet!

Also messy curls are huge this year so head over to my Instagram Stories today to watch how I get my curls and all the products used!

Here’s this little number from the Versona fitting rooms that I love but didn’t make the cut because the arms were a little to snug for my liking.