I try to stay politically neutral on the blog and social media promoting the blog (my personal Facebook may be a little different). But today, of all days, I’m going to write how I feel, the truth; if you find this to be crossing the line or stepping on toes I apologize in advance, but I feel the need to share this.
Today and the days following are going to be tough. We thought election night and the following day was tough. Well this is tougher. No matter what side you are on it’s going to be tough. Hate is going to be spewed. Sexist remarks and actions are going to take place. Keyboard warriors are going to have at it; Hell some will even have at it to your face. We will feel our rights, privileges and common ground violated. But for one thing, we are better. We will not stoop to their level, we will not fight back with violent words or actions, we will not spew hate and most of all we will stand our ground without causing physical or emotional harm.
I have thought about this a lot after reading and watching the news in the past months. What do we do now? Is it worth it? Will people listen? How do we make this a better now and future for the kids being raised and fellow humankind?How do we promote #womenempowerment when it feels like we’ve been set back 100 years? How do we move forward? All of these questions have complicated answers but at the same time very simple answers. The complicated answers are the one’s I don’t really have. The easy answers I do. We start with spreading love and kindness to everyone, not just our fellow feminist friends but everyone. And to make our voices heard, not backing down and promote the right answer no matter what.
So what do we actually do from here besides wearing our pink pussy hats and attending the march for women not only on DC but all over the country?
You can make your voices heard by doing the above mentioned things, but there will also be other peaceful protests. Also speak up about women’s rights any time you have the chance. Not just on a day dedicated to this. If you spot something that isn’t promoting the greatness of women, don’t sit by idly. Also you can donate your time and money to many organizations that are promoting the fight for women and their rights. Instead of donating to Goodwill or The Salvation Army when Spring cleaning, donate to a women’s shelter. Most of these women are escaping domestic violence situations (which I assume we will see a spike in) and flee with nothing. If donating, call beforehand. Also call and see what they are in need of the most or make a donation. You can get involved with Planned Parenthood, also donate to Planned Parenthood, attend Planned Parenthood events and even go and stand beside protesters offering a smile and a positive alliance for the patrons going inside. You can also donate to NOW which promotes all women’s rights and have chapters in every single state (Asheville even has a chapter).
But it’s not just women we have to support. We have to support the mentally ill, the veterans, the police officers, teachers, our LBGTQ community, people with different ethnic and religious backgrounds and the one’s whom don’t have a voice. We simply have to support each other and spread kindness. To everyone. Learn to speak up when something isn’t right. Donate to your child’s teacher, any school in your area or just help out any teacher you know. The education system is already a joke, so lend a helping hand when you can. Attend events promoting and helping our vets. Buy a police officer a coffee in line. Speak up about mental illness. When someone with a handicap is treated differently, make it right. Stand by your LBGTQ peers and let them know love is love and you will support them. Help people with different religious beliefs or ethnic backgrounds feel safe. Make sure going forward you are actually listening; it helps you understand the people around you and helps you actually be able to communicate with those around you.
All in all, be kind. Just spread it. It’s the cheapest and easiest thing you can do for your community, country and human race.
Speaking of being kind, say kind words, especially to the women around you. We as a group face it from men enough, so don’t be the one spreading the hatefulness. Stop shaming women for their choices. Stop shaming women for the person they are. Stop shaming women for the way they look. Stop shaming women for being a person who doesn’t let others in. Stop shaming women for their career choices. And stop shaming women for their choices on having and creating a family. Support each other. Support each other in small steps and huge leaps. We have to empower each other before any real change can actually happen. It starts with each of us. Female really is the future, so we need to make it a better one.
So I leave you with these last few things as a man who promotes sexism, rape culture, racism, hate and intolerance is sworn in to office today. I am always here for any of you. I will be your shoulder to cry on. I am the ear you need to vent to. Feel free to contact me for absolutely anything; to listen and to support. I care for you. I support you. You are loved. You are worthy. You are amazing. We will prevail!
Fashion posts are coming back at ya next week. I’m taking this weekend to find some creative juices and reflect. I hope you all reflect this weekend and spread some love!